“Should we do a first look?” The absolute #1 question asked by every single wedded couple ever! Do we have a first look? A private moment between the two of us? Or do we keep it traditional and wait to see each other down the aisle for the first time? I am a firm believer in “to each their own”, but let me tell you why I HIGHLY recommend that you consider a first look!
For starters, some people may feel the “pressure” to cry in front of their family and
friends when they see you coming down the aisle. Of course it is every bride’s dream to
have that moment of true magic captured while tears are rolling down their partners face
after seeing them for the first time. I’m here to tell you, as a very experienced wedding
photographer, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. Could this moment be
absolutely everything you’ve ever dreamed of? Of course!
Or, your partner might not have a big (physical) reaction at all. Sometimes the person down the aisle waiting is so overwhelmed with happiness and love that they are stunned – no joke! Well, what is a first look? A first look is a private moment, between just the two of you before your ceremony. You pick a beautiful area (with the best lighting!) and approach your partner while their back is turned towards you. You tap them on the shoulder, they turn around, and the emotions start flying! We’ve seen so many sweet moments, so many happy tears and shocked faces that make for the absolute best additions to any gallery. Having the private moment allows for your partner to be open with their emotions and honestly gives you a better chance for that “crying reaction” we all dream about!
During your first look, your photographer and videographer will likely be a few feet away snapping away and recording every moment. Feel no pressure! We are there to capture the MOMENT, your energy, the love. Pretend like we’re not there, we want you to embrace and soak up every second. This is also a HUGE PLUS for our clients that have anxiety!!! Seeing your partner before the ceremony can alleviate any or all butterflies or nerves you may have before the ceremony. It can be nerve wracking knowing you will be in front of all of your family and friends, but the private moment with your partner will have you both excited for the ceremony to begin. It’s also a huge plus that you can reserve this time for some romantic portraits, giving you the freedom to enjoy every second of your cocktail hour! That is the best food of the day of course.
That being said, one of my couples did a “fake” first look where the best man put on a wedding dress and surprised the Groom! We, of course, did a real first look after – but just putting this option out here as well.
In conclusion, we want nothing more than for your wedding to be perfect, and exactly how you want it. After photographing and attending hundreds of weddings, our brides always rave about how thankful they are that they took the time out for a first look. Not only for the sweet, private moment, but on average it adds anywhere from 25-50 additional photos in your gallery! Who wouldn’t want as many photos as possible from their wedding? If you’re unsure which direction you want to go, talk to your photographer and they will help you make the best choice for your special day.